In a recent article over at SHRM, they discussed the bias against women and men (but mostly women) trying to re-enter the workforce after taking time off from their careers to stay home and raise their kids. Most hiring managers and HR tend to think these women have lost their edge in their industry and are, therefore, not strong candidates. They are passed over during the hiring process for candidates who have not taken the time off to raise their kids. I think this bias is wrong and have first hand experience that supports my belief.
I’m pleased that the article is supportive of these women and discuses the positive attributes and skills that stay-at-home parents acquire during their time raising their kids.
…some HR experts argue that stay-at-home parenting actually imparts skills that prove valuable in the workplace, such as patience, persistence, creativity and reliability.
“Careers for men and women, parents or not, are no longer linear, and an accomplished woman who took a career detour to devote herself to motherhood can still be an incredibly valuable hire,” said Marisa Thalberg, founder of executivemoms.com, a networking site for working mothers.
Matt Brosseau, chief technology officer and head recruiter at Instant Alliance, an HR staffing and consulting firm, noted that “there’s a level of patience and creative problem-solving you can gain only from dealing with a toddler.”
“When parenting, you are often forced to negotiate with someone who may not be reasonable, and that’s a good skill when dealing with unreasonable clients and others,” he said.
In my time as a store manager at Macys, I hired many women who had taken several years off to raise their kids. The article does claim the retail industry is easier to assimilate than industries such as law, medicine, and IT. I can easily say almost all of the return-to-work moms turned out to be fantastic hires and very valuable employees. Many of them ended up being managers for me who have since gone on to very successful careers. One in particular, is a regional director for a large specialty retail chain store who has thanked me many times for giving her a chance when she was re-entering the workforce. Several others are now business owners or are in mid to high level management positions within their organizations.
I completely agree with the experts quoted above who emphasize the positive attributes gained by those who raise their kids. In addition to what they say, stay-at-home parents learn how to juggle multiple priorities while being constantly distracted. They have strong interpersonal skills in being able to negotiate and deal with difficult people. They have learned how to manage difficult situations while instilling a sense of fair play. They have learned how to motivate people to be their best. And having and raising kids matures and humbles people.
These are all attributes and skills that are valuable in any workplace!
I want to include my wife who recently re-entered the workforce, in retail, after many years of staying home and raising our kids. Its interesting to note that there were significant changes in technology that she had to deal with and learn but the core basics of retail are still the same. It took her a little time to catch on the the technology changes but she did. Along with her outstanding leadership ability, her selling skills, great customer service, and credit production, she is now a very valuable and highly desirable employee. Her boss has tried to promote her several times but she isn’t quite ready to take that step yet but I know she eventually will and will be very successful.
Bottom line, hiring people who took time off to raise their kids is not as risky as most people think. Any parent who has raised or is raising their kids should know how difficult the job is and the skills that are developed while doing so. Sure, there will be a learning curve at first but there is with all new hires.
The bias against people who are trying to re-enter the workforce after raising their kids should end. Employers are missing out on very skilled, motivated, and dedicated employees by passing them over.